Am I Afraid to Listen?
I saw the car parked at the end of my driveway before I heard the doorbell ring. It was my neighbor, from across the street, simply passing along some neighborly information. She made a comment about just backing into my driveway since she was headed out anyway. As I watched her walk back to her car, I understood.
It looked like every step hurt. She almost waddled. That was weeks ago. That scenario has been replaying in my head (and heart) ever since. I want to help her.
I’m a coach. I don’t like that word (I prefer Professional Muse – but that’s the subject for another day) and I have been coaching people long before the term even made it into our daily lexicon. The fact that I have accreditation as a Certified Holistic Health Coach just makes it more official.
I’ve chatted with her a few times at neighborhood gatherings, but other than that, I don’t know her very well. Sometimes that’s better. She is overweight, but I never noticed how much effort walking required. Maybe that’s more recent. In any case, she is way too young to walk like that.
My daily morning ritual includes prayer and meditation. My special space has windows that face her driveway. Yesterday I watched her move cars around and walk back and forth from her house a few times. I just sat there wondering what I could possibly say that wouldn’t insult her. Obviously that is the last thing I’d want. A wise friend suggested I make my offer and say that if she’d work with me, it would help me too. That IS true, I know I would learn as much from her as she would from me.
I’ve been contemplating that angle for a couple of weeks. I need courage.
My ritual includes reading from The Daily Word. And yesterday, after I watched her move all those cars, I opened my little book and the word was “Caregiver: I am God’s love in expression. Putting aside time and finding ways to give is also about making a heart-to-heart connection…This activity of giving and receiving creates a circle of love.” I’m listening.
But I’m about to start traveling a lot, so is it fair to say something now and offer to start in six weeks? Do I wait a couple more weeks so the start time could be closer? Or is it really none of my business and I should just remain quiet?
This morning, once again, I found myself staring at her house wondering what to say. Today’s word? “My Gifts: I express and share my unique gifts with the world. As I use my talents to help create a better world for all, I fulfill my purpose.” I hear You.
I need your opinion – Do I say something? What? When? I welcome your advice below. (Thank you!)