Honest, Brie, I’m not psychic, I can’t read your mind. So if there’s something you want me to do, you just need to tell me. Please!
On the train yesterday, I overheard this man talking on his cell phone, pleading with the woman on the other end. It made me smile because the words were so familiar – my husband used to say them to me (except, of course, he didn’t call me Brie). I used to expect him to read my mind. It never ended well because, well, he can’t. He’d get frustrated and I’d get upset.
When he finally caught on – as the man on the train clearly has – life got more harmonious. Even when I still expected him to read my mind, he was wise and, like the man on the train, pointed out that being psychic was not one of his strengths. He had to remind me a few times before I learned to just speak up and tell him what I wanted. Truly, so much easier!
(I know there are women that use this as a test…”if he really loved me, he would know what I want/need without me having to tell him.” Some take it further by saying if he just does what I say then it doesn’t really count. It doesn’t mean as much, because I had to tell him and “if he really loved me…” [see above] Do you know anyone like that?)
Let’s face it, if you don’t know what you want well enough to articulate it to someone else, what chance does someone else have to guess (once you agree mind-reading is really a waste of energy and eliminate the psychic component)?
Knowing what you want is often the hardest part of this whole equation. But once you do, you owe it to yourself to get it. If that means asking for it, be bold! Say it out loud. Even if you don’t know exactly, exactly, sometimes just talking about it creates a better awareness. Discussing it with the one you love will bring clarity for both of you. And when you stay in that place of JOY, receiving what you want happens a lot faster!
What part do you play in this scenario? Are you the one expecting someone else to read your mind? Or are you on the receiving end of getting/doing/saying it wrong because you’re not psychic? I’d love to know below!
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