This magnificent conference center has seats for 22,000 people. Life has seats for everyone who wants one. If I get one, it doesn’t mean you don’t. There’s plenty for everyone.
I was chatting with a young professional woman and we got on the subject of my son, Harry, who recently graduated and has begun his search for the perfect job (in social media). She mentioned a website called Canva.com and recommended that he check it out – they offer free templates to assist in creating a beautiful resume.
He loved it! He said there were so many great designs, he had trouble choosing just one. The next time I saw the young professional, I thanked her for letting me know about Canva – my son loved it! She admitted she didn’t tell too many people – especially not in her industry. She wanted to keep it her little secret because she didn’t want more people to be able to create a nice resume. She believed keeping it a secret would give her an edge.
I told her there’s plenty for everyone. She agreed and then reiterated that she prefers not to tell people.
I was reading Dear Miss Manners (I love Judith Martin – do you ever read her column?) and the question came from a woman who, through much trial and error, created a delicious cake recipe. It became her signature and she would bake this cake for all the events she attended (requiring a baked good). People started requesting the recipe. How, she asked, could she politely decline these requests? After all, she had created the recipe and she didn’t want anyone in these same social circles showing up for the same event, carrying her cake.
She advised the woman to be coy about it. “Sorry, but that’s my secret lure. I’d hate to have you able to make it for yourself, because then you’d not be as eager to come to see me.” While her answer is polite, it lacks the understanding that there’s plenty for everyone.
Based on the feedback I receive, I’m a pretty good baker. I am happy to share my recipes (flattered, actually). It never even occurred to me that I would show up at the same event with the same recipe as anyone else.
Many times after sharing a recipe, the baker tells me her cookies don’t taste as good as mine. My reaction is to start questioning the brand of butter she used, the type of vanilla, etc. Eventually I realize there’s not really a question there, simply a lament that her cookies aren’t as good as mine.
Obviously there are one thousand reasons why that could be true, but I’m satisfied knowing I provided full disclosure. The recipe I share is the exact recipe I use.
Sharing useful, joyful, tasty information enables us all to live in a more abundant world.
Do you keep something secret that you know would help others? Why or why not?
I’d love to know below!